Meditation on Allowing
A simple but powerful meditation is the practice of allowing; that is, allowing everything in your life, mind, body, and experience to be as it is without judging it “good” or “bad” or trying to change it in any way. Allowing centers on acceptance and non judgment—life changing dispositions that can virtually eliminate suffering, for if you look carefully and with an open mind you will realize that the vast majority of human suffering is caused by our own resistance to various life circumstances. In other words, resistance to what is at any given moment.
There is a terrific story about J. Krishnamurti, who was a well known spiritual teacher in the twentieth century. For decades Krishnamurti traveled the world, taking his practical teachings to people everywhere, and near the end of his life he had many devoted followers. One day during one of his classes he asked attendees if they wanted to know his “secret.” Of course pretty much everyone did. “I don’t mind what happens,” he explained simply.
And that was all. I don’t mind what happens. No doubt some people in the audience grasped the profundity of his message, while others did not, but those who did received a life changing lesson. He meant that whatever occurred in his life, he accepted it without judgment, thereby eliminating suffering by eliminating resistance to the facts of his life. I don’t mind what happens is a perfect teaching on allowing.
To practice allowing during meditation, get settled and relaxed as you normally would, close your eyes, and tell yourself that for the period of the meditation you are just going to allow everything that occurs during the session—every sensation, feeling, thought, and circumstance in your life and relationships—to be as they are without interfering, resisting, judging them good or bad, or trying to change your experience in any way. Dedicate yourself to absolutely letting go of all judgment, resistance to what is, including the desire to direct your life circumstances in general and your immediate experience during the meditation. Take your hands off the wheel of your life, so to speak, and just become a passenger for a while. Even if you feel resistance or discomfort, practice accepting your resistance as well. No matter what occurs, accept it; don’t resistant, don’t direct, don’t judge.
And when you are done meditating, remind yourself that there is no reason to end the practice of allowing. You can, and should, apply this same exercise to daily life as well.